We’re starting a new series this week. If you have any questions, thoughts, and comments, email me and I’d love to incorporate them.
What is, “The best a man can get?” That’s the question posed by Gillette’s new ads that have drawn big reactions from many. The coining of the phrase, “toxic masculinity” has also become a lightning rod for debate.
A book was recently passed on to me by one of our members. It’s called, “King, Warrior, Magician, Lover: Rediscovering the Archetypes of the Mature Masculine”. I like the direction of this book which would have criticisms for many overreacting in both directions on this issue. Here’s a quote.
“What is missing is not for the most part, what many depth psychologists assume is missing; that is adequate connection with the inner feminine. In many cases, these men seeking help had been, and were continuing to be, overwhelmed by the feminine. What they were missing was an adequate connection to the deep and instinctual masculine energies, the potentials of mature masculinity.”
I’ve seen some well written articles in the recent debate that make a similar argument. What we need is more masculinity, real and true masculinity that reflects well what God lays out for us in Scripture from Genesis 1-2 which show man’s role in caring for creation and woman all the way to Eph. 5 which calls on men to show their headship by sacrificing everything for their wives. Too often, whether it was intended or not, the criticism of the bad actions of males was met by the argument that men needed to give up some of the traits that made them men and replace them with more “feminine” virtues. Or perhaps needed to be led more by feminine role models.
Bad forms of masculinity don’t arise by accident. They exist because generations of men haven’t been appropriately mentored or taught and this is another impact of sin. And just like sin breaks down everything else (including feminism) it can also break down the masculine. And so we need to pay attention and work hard to encourage each other as men and help pass on to the next generation a strong and mature masculinity. Over the next few weeks, we’re going to look at some of these basic roles identified by the book and look at how they line up with God’s design.
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